Nervosis: What should you do when everything irritates you?

There are days when we don't find peace with ourselves, and there's only one little thing we need to explode. But if this situation becomes chronic, and the causes remain invisible, that means that our <x0-source” of pleasure is drying up...

A baby cries big: maybe he's hungry, maybe he's asleep, or maybe there's a lot of things that bother him, and he's still not able to express himself. The experience of embarrassment leads us from birth. Despite something unpleasant, it serves to make us realize that there is something inside or outside of us that makes us uncomfortable.

A disturbance, which is no pain, no burning, no bitterness, no arrogance. But what is it then? The term's own etimology helps us to understand it: in Latin “fastus”, also means pride or contempt, and “taedium” means frustration or rejection. So, combining words, the annoyance describes a feeling of prideful “, or “refuge filled with indignation”: so it's the suffering of those who know what they don't like, who don't want to wait, and who want it to leave as soon as possible.

Faithfulness From Living

There is a nervous system that wisely helps us to know what is wrong, to change the situation, or to submit to it. It's a tool of adaptation and evolution. But then the question arises: What does it mean when a person becomes easily nervous and long - term?

And what about those who live in a constant state of nervousness? In fact, if you think about it, there are not few who never feel “rule”: there is always something wrong for them, even in the most favorable situations. They may not complain, but they are obviously embarrassed, and they end up transmitting that embarrassment even to those around them.

We can label it as people who can't find peace, and for whom being good or happy, it's more of a kind of temporary peace, amid a nervous situation. In the meantime, others did not hide their concern and constantly complain - an aging parent, a silent colleague, a partner who is not happy with anything, a friend who always has reason to complain.

Impulsion to Change

A lot of people, they don't understand why they're always nervous. They've become a way of life since most people would like to change. The latter have an opportunity to solve the problem if they really want it. The starting point is to become aware of something that is really known - something that irritates us, angers us, or stumbles us in our lives. And not just in context. The context is life itself - the way of life. Bezdia is actually just the first step towards a transformation.

The Source to Stop

But what causes us to become nervous? At this point, the person must carefully reflect. The first thing to take into consideration is easier, but even more common: ” there was a source of frustration over time, which I ignored? Many are unuttered, people and unpleasant situations that we've endured for a long time?

They may have flocked to the breaking point of patience to the threshold of suffering. The second is: ” Do I have a clear idea of what my life should be like, and I can't accept it, that it doesn't match what I have in mind? Here we are in the field of perfectionism, a model of reality, which prevents us from enjoying things the way they are.

The third is: ” I've lived so long in the service of others for example following the goals that have been dictated to me by my parents or partners, who haven't been mine yet and that I feel I'm more patient to stay distanced from myself? These are fundamental questions that should not remain theoretical: what is perceived as true, must find a way to translate itself into a change in our “ecosystem” so that we can finally feel comfortable in our lives.