Disparaging words can destroy neurons in children

Catherine Gueguen explains the discoveries of science in children's brains. And how its work protects the principles of benevolent education.

Why will new discoveries about the brain change the way children are educated?

XXI - century researchers tell us that what helps to develop a child is a kind, empathetic, supportive relationship. Because such an attitude allows the brain, very fragile, to evolve objectively.

Affective relationships affect memory skills, learning, thinking, but also conventional skills, emotions, emotions. They modify the secret of cerebral molecules, the development of neurons. Also correcting stress, even the ability to operate certain genes.

Psychiatricist John Bawlby said the need for a child's anathesia was vital, neuroscience has confirmed it for the last 10 years.

Why is it a revolution?

Most parents have grown up with threats forced to act on the famous “rule. I'm counting to three: 1.2...” So they themselves do this kind of violence, without imagining the psychological and psychological consequences. “How clumsy you are!”, “you are impatient”, these insulting, repeated words often can destroy neurons in the main structures of the brain.

What else have we learned from observing the way children's brains function?

Science tells us that we should give up the conviction that our child's anger is intentional. “Contacts” do not exist! These kids are called “tiraine”, while they're simply unable to manage their emotions before the age of 5 or 7.

One of the great discoveries of neuroscension is that a baby cannot cool himself. When an 18 - month - old child lies on earth, it is not to manipulate his parents to achieve his goals. He experiences an emotional storm that is stronger than he is. His parents say “we shouldn't be dropping pe”, as if it was about a ratio of forces they should get.

In fact, the work is different. We need to stay close to our child to find the words about what he feels, to calm him, to comfort him. But without submitting to all his desires, if these are not justified.

Where can parents find kindness when the world outside is so harsh?

They should also be surrounded by a warm, kind family circle. He must stay away from toxic people, starting with his spouse if he is violent.

We shouldn't have “staying married because of children” as stated in the previous generation. I also advise parents to train in stages or with books on nonviolent communication, a method that enables the creation of more harmonised relationships. And especially not forget yourself.