Couples' Intimacies, pay attention to these three relationships

According to Buddhist tradition, there are three assassins who slowly poison our minds and then touch our relationships, to the point that we destroy relations with our partner: we are talking about greed, anger, and openness.

When it comes to couples and privacy, you should pay attention to these truly silent killers who may eventually destroy it.

The first of the three killers is greed: he has normal desires, demands that we make daily to our partner, and that we hope they will be satisfied. The problem is when we turn these normal demands into very high demand.

This can happen when we have a distorted view of what a couple should be when we are too greedy to claim and are in danger of turning our healthy desire into an inappropriate and overwhelming demand.

If we become too voracious in our request for attention, we force our partner to make a huge effort to be content, and we risk making him feel pressured and irritated because he cannot make us happy.

Moreover, greed as a couple does not pay because we first feel dissatisfied and are no longer able to enjoy what is beautiful in our relationships.

Anger is also a killer who in time destroys the relationship: anger can also appear in the form of discontent, protection, intolerance, fear. But even with inappropriate forms of control, interference, and arrogance.

If our anger grows to the extent that we see an enemy as an ally in our partner, the result will be a very critical attitude on our part that in the long term harms the relationship, generating unresolved conflicts that will distance us from each other.

Menefregism, on the other hand, is represented as the third potential killer of love and can also be displayed in the form of distractions and emotional distance.

Whenever we take on other things in our lives, preventing us from leaving the right space for relationships, it means that we are missing and that, over time, irreparably destroys the couple's intimacy.

Whatever the killer is slowly killing our relationship, the steps to neutralise him are the same:

1. Be aware of the problem to see how much pain the person we love brings.

2. Find the motive to fight for love, which can only motivate us when we understand the pain that our attitude brings.

3. Practice new behaviors that replace old and painful ones - green light toward generosity, gratitude, loving kindness.