Is the love of getting married enough?

... she is born and then the marriage flourishes. Classic pre-Romanism tradition made this last one born before love...

Now that all-powerful emotion, unique, worthy to be crowned, is born before, because the prospect of romantic love, has reversed the foundations of the former marriage and highlighted individual happiness, and no longer the social obligation of society to marry and find children, whether you are happy or not. Today we get married to be happy... the children who may come will be perfecting this happiness even more. Thus, love “is born”, which turns marriage into a cult that everyone eventually wants and wants to embrace.

Love

...but is it enough to knock on the wedding gate? What does it take for our relationship to reach maturity that requires a successful marriage? Being in pairs involves our deepest ability to love another person in a mutually and unconditional way. This relationship also relies on each partner's capacity to feel important and to give proper value and importance to the partner/e. Without these two important qualities, a real experience in a couple becomes impossible because intimacy and mutual respect are lost somewhere on the road.

Mating Age

The mating age starts with the first stage, the choice of partner/s. This choice is part of a complex process involving not only the current state of the two partners but also all the genetic, family, educational, economic, social, and social influences that each of them carry in life. It's that choice that we sum up in a single word “attraction”, because otherwise it would look very complicated.

Together, these influences have formed what the individual is, his complex personality that I know to love, who knows how to forgive, to help, to compromise, so that he knows how to live the experience of being a couple. The quality that, if absent, would make marriage a legal contract and that's it. Along with the above factors, there is a balance of similarities between the two partners who choose each other that leads two people to live quietly in balance. But at the same time, there are also several differences that allow a certain dose of tension, which does not harm the relationship, as it supplies it with healthy driving towards individualisation.

Columns bearing “love home”

Stability in marital relations, prototype of long and strong relations, is also based on:

What are our personality traits and how we communicate them to our partner/e

How much more time is involved in mutual dependence

The sensitivity to our emotions and our partner/s

The growing intimacy and love are deeply fixed in the veins of the relationship and feed it without stop

To know how to share and to live love

To know how best to share roles in a relationship, and to set sound grounds for intimacy, is to live a marriage that has offered without ever being exhausted.

Also, goals and expectations that she is conscious of or not have an important impact on the direction she takes in a relationship, on the intensity with which she lives, and on her life span.

Overwhelmed by the euphoria of love, many of us pass the marriage threshold filled with unrealistic expectations about what marriage offers us, convinced that living in a couple will satisfy all our needs, whatever nature they may be. The frustration begins at the moment we realize it's not exactly like that. And at this stage it happens what is described as the beginning of our self-esteem, based on our limits, our expectations and our partner's expectations about us. Marriage goes on like this, a developmental process, like a small newborn baby that grows slowly and begins to develop its fragile identity.

How many of us have felt their relationship “grows” over the years?