Disillusionment to the baby's gender is the worst feeling that pregnant mother experiences; that's how to overcome it by psychologists

Is it one of the first questions people ask after finding out you're waiting sweet: “is a boy or a girl? And if it's too early to know or you've decided to wait to see it when the baby comes to life the standard answer is: “Oh, we don't care, as long as the child is healthy”.

But are you being completely honest with yourself? Deep down you might prefer to have a daughter. Or maybe it's not a lust for one gender over another, but you've always imagined yourself as a boy. Whatever your initial opinion, gender disappointment refers to those feelings of sadness or disappointment after the discovery of gender. And that happens more often than you think.

The gender disappointment is quite common”, says psychologist Dr. Danielle Forshee. The “especially for those who feel that a specific gender has a certain meaning for them”.

For example, a father might think that boys would be more fun and easier than girls, based on their growing experiences.

Maybe you grew up with brothers and always dreamed of having a daughter. Or you may already have a daughter you love, but you want to experience something different with your future child.

And after disappointment, another feeling plunged into guilt. I have friends trying to get pregnant, I should be grateful that I can have a baby. And this is: DHREE! Or worry that if someone learns how upset you are about your child's gender, he may feel that you will not love your child. These are the kinds of emotions that prevent people from talking about gender disappointment. But that's really the first thing to do.

Feelings begin to weigh on you, and to relieve some of the shame, disappointment, or guilt, you do not even think of that feeling.

But remember, it is good to feel disappointed. No feelings should ever be dismissed. They're there for a reason. The key is to find a way to understand and then accept them so that you can move on.

And another comforting thought: gender disappointment fades especially once you hold your baby in your arms.