“I'm risking my marriage by having relations with former boyfriend”

Girl psychologist: My husband and I have a sweet relationship, but I met my former boyfriend three weeks ago and had sex.

It was planned and exciting at the time, but now I feel so guilty.

Former boyfriend and I haven't seen each other in ten years, but he loved my Facebook photos and we became friends on social networks.

Friendly conversation turned into flirting and sex. Finally we decided to go out for a drink, but we both knew why we were going out.

He's 28 years old and his wife left him for another man, so he has his own home.

He suggested I go there for a drink. And as soon as I got my cab home, I felt disgusting and dirty. I've been with my husband since I was 18. I'm 27 years old now and he's 30. He loves me and still flirts with me.

He does everything and works hard to provide me and our girls, who are four and five years old. He's the perfect one for me.

But I had a terrible childhood. My father was abusive to his mother. He controlled everything she did, where she went and called him with terrible names.

She finally mustered up courage by leaving her five years ago when my sister reached 18 years.

I betrayed my partner even with one of his friends two years ago. We didn't have sex, but everything that led to it, including text messages and dirty pictures.

She lasted a year and then I stopped her.

I don't want to lose my partner even though I don't deserve him.

Psychologist answers: A parent like your father destroys a child's self - confidence and makes it difficult even to believe that a relationship can always be loving and stable.

The good part is that your partner is a good man, but the other is that you're sabotaged your relationship thinking you don't deserve it.