Left Albanian women and children for Macedonian: MP says love knows border

The wedding of Bisera Jordanovska and Muhamed Zekiri, which was held last weekend and was an event that drew attention to opinion and prompted reactions on social networks, writes Almakos.

The bride, former Alsat-M television director, the groom at a time editor-in-chief and editor-in-chief on the same television before entering politics, and today is LSDM deputy and vice president. She is Orthodox, she is Muslim, something totally insignificant in the modern world, but here to us, however, is still taboo and hardly understood and acceptable to most of the people.

Two have a second marriage. Bisera has a son, Muhammad two daughters, and on the way is their common child, who they found to be a girl. The bonds between mature ones, filled with love, are often expected to end with marriage and family expansion. However, this account of the washing of the couple, as they confess, has passed on a long and many obstacles to a happy outcome. The differences, beliefs, circumstances, all of this has created situations where the couple, fighting for his love, have managed them to benefit everyone. They are proud to have been determined for their love and to command that the heart should be followed because the heart - made things first change the person - and then the people around him.

When and how your love story started, you were once colleagues, the Bisera directors, and you were editor-in-chief in Alsat-M, did journalism unite you in a way?

Zafir: If you teach us anything, our way is that there is no circumstance or way, tool or man who can unite two souls who are not united, or separate two who are united in love. When other people asked us the same question, we often thought about a Rumi saying, which I'm paraphrasing:” It's not that lovers eventually meet somewhere, but they exist each other from the beginning of the time”. We've always had deep and mutual respect as well as love as individuals, maybe air conditioning has weighed down on us what is in our heart and up to the head to have such a form.

How did you know you were for each other, what was the crucial moment, love at first sight, or everything flowed spontaneously?

Zekiri: It's hard to talk about a crucial moment, professionally many years we've shared the everydayity and common presence in another's life in those frames is somehow meant. Somewhere along the way, situations have taken place that have questioned -- for example, one to get an offer for jobs meant to leave the country, or to make a decision on private life with similar consequences. At such times, man has realized that the personal response to disappointment and inadequacy, although in essence he desires all the other person's fate, exceeds the frames of a relationship we have had. You start to wonder why you feel that way and that way. Who knows us as humans, you know, or you could assume what those internal battles were like that we had to win with ourselves first. How much respect for each other has stopped us, the responsibility we felt, in the end, to come to a sincere answer to all those questions. The long route was up to crucial recognition and acceptance of each other.

Despite the news of the wedding, there have been statements from your friends in the more media yesterday that love has overcome many obstacles. Keeping in mind that mature and successful people are involved, what obstacle is involved when it comes to love?

Zekiri: Love knows no obstacles, the best evidence of that is us. But people know! Our maturity, success, or character have no bearing on what might prove to be a roadblock. Sometimes relatives, convinced of their best intentions, are powerless to see that what is right to them should not be right for the other, whether the son or daughter, the brother or the sister, the father, etc., and there are situations that should be managed in the interests of everyone. Sometimes objective circumstances, such as the general situation in the country and Muhammad's actual obligations, were prioritial in relation to some of our plans that we have proposed. We are both conscious and always almost tolerant and patient of everything that's happening around us, since we know our confession not just for a day or two, so we have given enough time to prove that what people think is impossible can be impossible for them, but not for us.

How do you deal with the differences on all bases, even though we live in the XXI century, yet there are many taboos in us, silent rules about what is right and allowed and what is not, and unfortunately, people for whom there are still unacceptable ties and marriage between persons and different religions?

Zekiri: We have a sentence that we often use:” You and I are different, we only have the same love! ” Then, at least we think about what was mentioned and the third person more often “the” mentioned in a national and religious sense. It's just, from the beginning, we look like two people with characters, attitudes, vices, bangs, special life-styles, and we put all of this together in our common everydayity to make it better for each other. It does not confront Albanians, Macedonians or Islam, but more or less in the mood, healthy, sick, or tired, satisfied or frustrated by work day by day. You are faced with needs and lists of activities, children, and similar ones. “Dates”, such as holidays and traditions, we only enrich our home and life, the same thing we accept, respect and enjoy. And Muhammad as the host of the house knows how to break bread with money, and Biserah to fast 30 days with Muhammad. The important thing is that there are no taboo subjects between us and we define for ourselves what is right and instead of being guided by certain rules or standards imposed. After all, marriage is a community of two, and if they have accepted each other as they are, the opinion of others is insignificant.

You are parents of three children, or Muhammad has two daughters, and Bisera has a son from the first marriage. You have a child in common on the way. Are you prepared for the challenge, for all that parenting carries, but also the fact that not always light can be balanced in certain situations?

Zekiri: Both prepared and exercised and happy. There is no perfect man, and there is no perfect parent. The most important prerequisite for successful parenting and happy children, we think, is the unconditional love for the child we feed the second!

It's a bonus plus what parents are in harmony with even the system of values and child education and when we can give them homes where there's harmony and understanding. The common girl is the long - awaited child for whom we must admit that rather happy was his older brother.

Weddings passed with many guests from the state leader, the testimony of Prime Minister Zoran Zaev prompted the attention of the opinion. It is known that you are close to Zaev, how did he come to testify, how did the prime minister react to the honour offered?

Zekiri: The testimony has prompted mixed reactions to the opinion over the past few days, after news of the party was spread. Yet such a relationship exists so long, away from the eyes of opinion, when last year at a religious ceremony, in the presence of one religious person, our four witnesses Zoran and Zorica, as well as Enco and Edith Kolashinac, vowed to God for our love. What they witnessed in our civic marriage is just a logical pursuit of something that has begun, and it's a confession of our personal trust that we will feed even further out of the current status of the parties involved. Zoran, as well as others mentioned, originally believed in our relationship and in our genuine devotion to each other.

What's the message from your happy ending? Is the order that it is worth, and when we believe in love we must fight and learn to accept differences?

Zekiri: There is nothing more valuable and worth fighting for than what your heart loves. Sometimes this is human, sometimes it's a cause or a personal mission. What your heart demands, follow it. Everything that is done with soil from the heart, sooner or later, changes you and people around you. The start of each positive change is love. But you must first believe in her and fight for her, so that she can do her own.