It's the most crucial time, what the things that CDO need to know for the first six weeks after birth.

In the midst of all these sources where you can find information today, from the internet, books, etc., you never know what to believe because there are books that oppose each other, or there are mothers who say that one method has worked on them while others explode against it. But after I talked to a lot of other mothers, I realized that we all fought the same things in the first few weeks after we were born, and nobody bothered to warn us about them, in the midst of the baby feeding lessons, the changes in our lives, etc.

I've prepared a list of six best things, which I believe we all agree on, that every mother should know:

1. Listen to your instincts, not Dr. Google. With so many sources of information on the internet and books available today, most of them oppose each other, so don't always think that these sources know more than you do. For example, if you feel that your child is hungry, feed him. Don't read the books that tell you you have to wait two or three hours. Feed your child because there is no reason to starve him simply because you have to follow the instructions of information read somewhere. Believe what your heart says and you'll be fine.

2. Listen to the signs your child sends you. As babies communicate only through body language and cry, within the first week, you will begin to notice the different behaviors and tones of weeping that clearly try to tell you something. For example: The babies will tell you that they are hungry before they cry, such as putting their hand in their mouth and so on. When you notice any of these signs, feed your child without waiting for him to cry. If the baby gets tired of drinking the signs, you can notice the ear movements. Pay attention to these different signs within the first week or more, and you will be able to wonder what your baby is trying to tell you.

3. The decision between breast - feeding and formula should not become greater than that for World War III. First of all, breast - feeding is not even a decision. breast - feeding is a difficult process. It takes time, it's an embarrassment you and the baby must face. If you're not making it, ask for a lactation consultant. Be prepared that this potential battle will take all your inner strength to succeed. Second, breast - feeding may not do for you. You or your baby may have a medical problem that makes you unable to breast - feed. You may even hate it, it may not be appropriate for you. But you should never think that you have failed as a mother, just because you cannot afford to nurse. No matter what you do, your baby will be beautiful and wonderful, smart and articulating. Do what's best for you and your child. Don't let anyone make you feel different.

4. Do not dwell on trying to be the perfect mother. There is no perfect mother. To be your child's best mother, all you have to do is give your best. Parenting includes triumphs and failures. Don't make it difficult for yourself, and don't be discouraged if you fail. Above all, do not be afraid to seek help. If anyone wants to make you dinner, let him. If someone wants to take care of the child while you sleep, let him do it. Kindly accept all the help you receive because the person who offers you is likely in your situation.

5. Don't forget to make time for your partner. It's so easy to lose sight of your relationship with your partner during those weeks and the first months of parenting. Amid fatigue from sleepless nights, the times required for breast - feeding and your normal activities at home or at work may be difficult to find good time with your partner. Anyway, it's important that you find him. Don't forget to tell your partner I love you, or at least make it possible to eat a meal together, and at that meal try to talk about anything other than your baby. The key is not to build a new life around your baby but to unite your child with your existing life.

6. Don't forget to make time for yourself. It's absolutely essential that you take time for yourself every day. Each day, you need to take time to take a shower, to wear clean clothes, and to eat at least two healthful meals. Then try to get out of the house no less than 10 minutes a day. Even a short walk does wonders. Just step away from your child to renew. PI RNAT