When and how to talk about sex?

We often view sexuality as something to be ashamed of, as if we should keep it hidden, in a hidden corner, and we should not talk about it with anyone. Sexuality in our country is a taboo subject, especially in the family. Children don't know what sexuality is, but they discover it over the years, about 12-13, when facing adolescence.

According to experts, however, it is wrong not to talk to children about sex, to make clear what it is, and to keep secrets that are natural. Learning how to deal with our children comes from Scandinavian countries, especially Denmark.

Sexuality - How to Explain to Children the Danish Method

According to experts, the method used in Denmark to talk to children about sexuality is an important model to follow in order to enjoy a satisfying and peaceful life. First of all, this model does not view sexuality as taboo but as an important part of our life that we can talk about, even with our children. Hence, there is a need for a very open dialogue and debate on these issues from childhood. You can start talking to your children about sexuality by age four. Denmark is one of the happiest places in the world, so their advice will certainly not harm anyone! Psychologist Jessica Alexander explained how this conversation should be made, giving specifically 5 advice to parents who want a peaceful and open relationship with their children.

“Do not be afraid”

The subject of sexuality is not simple, especially if you have to treat it with a child. According to the expert, you should not be anxious or fearful but treat this subject calmly. We need to talk to our children as soon as possible, and do it with courage and tenderness, without being embarrassed.

“Try talking to your children”

Children need to realize that parents will always be there when necessary, even on such matters. The confrontation is always positive and helps to mature and grow. It is therefore important for children from childhood to know that they can rely on their parents to discuss such difficult matters. You will need to be kind and honest to them without being embarrassed.

“Teach them body happiness”

It is important to care for your body, learn to know it, and know how it works. Our emotional and mental well - being also depends heavily on our body and therefore it is important to know how to understand our needs.

“Bised with them for technology (as soon as possible)”

In their early teens, children begin consciously using computers and smartphones. Using technology, they can be in front of images or videos that can shake. According to psychologist, we have to explain to them that images do not correspond to reality, but that they are manipulated. They will not have to have a wrong view of sex.

“Seek support from other parents”

We should seek cooperation not only with our children but also with their parents and friends who will surely go through similar situations in the family.