How can a child be disciplined who breaks rules and does not listen?

We discipline our children, not to control their conduct, but to teach them to recognize from an early age the importance of cooperation and to be responsible in the decisions they make or not to perform certain actions or conduct. Discipline of children does not involve fear, hurt, or shame. He does not intend to make his children feel guilty, not loving them, or even forcing them to obey us. Put another way, disciplining children is not punishment or express itself in any form of physical or emotional violence.

What should you do when your child breaks the rules and does not listen?

Nothing big: If your child breaks a rule and that's really just a mistake or <x0lineth”, calmly let him know it's just a moment and “nothing big”. Give him all the information he lacks so that he does not repeat his mistake.

Include and hear: Ask him if your child has any idea how to fix his mistake. In time, your child may begin to do so on his own.

Make it over again: Do You See Useless Conduct? Let your child begin to have a second chance. Can you show me a way to pet your dog gently and kindly?

Stop your behavior and listen to your feelings: When you notice that your child is behaving in a way that is useless and unnecessary, you calmly intervene to prevent behavior. Then give your child an opportunity to contact you and express himself. It may seem to be: “I won't let you hit your brother! ” Enter between two children. “I'm here for you. Can you tell me what's going on? When we listen to our emotions, we help our children learn to develop self - adjustment skills and make better choices as they grow older.

Help “M E TO” instead of making “FOR TO”: You can offer your child help to clean up or regulate when necessary. Making “of”, instead of “adjusting for”, helps transform bad behavior into a moment of teaching. Your child may leave with a feeling that not only are you expected to fix their mistakes but that they are capable of doing so.

Say NO and what you mean: Set and maintain boundaries that are clear so that your child will understand what you really expect.

Respect and encourage: Talk to your child about the same respect and consideration you hope to hear when she speaks to you, their family, their friends, and their teachers.

Learn then believe: Try not to be too lectured or to stop in broken rules (you may need to be released to a friend or to write to forget it). The goal is to learn and move on, believing that your child is learning to follow your instruction.

What if a child breaks the same rules over and over again?

Jane Nelsen, author of “Disciplinary series” suggests that “take time to train”, which means that make sure that your child has spent enough time with you to practice and learn what is expected of them.

Reflect and reduce the number of rules: More rules you'll be controlling the storm and most kids will become very creative. They tell lies, and they break only that they are not caught. Reflect on whether it is necessary to adapt to expectations or environments (home, supervision, explanation) to adapt to your child's age and development.

Focus on the connection: Is your child receiving sufficient undesirable, positive attention from you? Do you have time to be with your child, play games, listen to dreams, thoughts, and desires? Do you create special moments together? Do you view your child with love, kindness, and care? Because a person's love means seeing him, actually seeing him, about worries, chaos, confusion, and imperfections.