Eternal love or how long? That depends on you too!

Counsel to maintain a relationship over time and to make it stable and happy

And they lived forever happily” just like in fairy tales. Lasting a relationship, perhaps for the rest of your life, is not an impossible mission, even though in those years it seems like a very difficult journey, as evidenced by the considerable number of separations and divorces.

On the contrary, there are couples who can live and grow old together, perhaps with a few twists, but without losing the desire to share their daily journey - what is their secret? How can they maintain their love for decades without being subjected to daily stress and on the other hand to monotony?

Here are small strategies for a good life to maintain a healthy relationship, if not forever, at least as long as possible.

When enthusiasm disappears We cannot demand that a relationship remain unchanged over time because love also transforms and changes the skin with us. Not without purpose is less intense and less sincere: The noisy passion of the first stages of falling into love becomes something more stable, and excitement is followed by the moment of emotion.

It is up to us and our intelligence to understand this transformation and assess a more peaceful and balanced relationship. This doesn't mean we're allowed to neglect the <x0...

Love is just love It is not absolute perfection from all perspectives, at any time of the day and 365 days a year. Love is primarily another's affirmation and a willingness to share, and it certainly needs to be fed and strengthened by the cooperation, intimacy, and determination of the partners.

We build, for example, a <x0bank of happy memories”, which should be preserved and remembered in times of difficulty. Let us remember, however, that love is not enough to guarantee the duration of a relationship: it requires continued commitment and the ability to reaffirm it even in its transformations.

Fighting in the right way The confrontation in an active way is inevitable and healthy. At times, the very fact that they are more rebellious is a sign that things are not going well in a couple's lives. No, therefore, keep everything inside, but not endless strife and, worse, uncontrolled anger.

To catch up in a healthy way, one should not lose the ability of the individual to identify himself in another's view and a positive attitude: there is a discussion to overcome a problem, not to hurt himself or to violate one another. We clearly ask what we want without resurrecting the past and, above all, without the desire to hurt.

Value and self - esteem A couple relationship works if the partners are firmly at their feet and have a positive relationship with themselves.

Our appreciation for the other person goes hand in hand with what we feel about our person - there will surely be moments in our lives where we will be torn apart and we will have to rely on the other person, but this does not replace the personal determination and sense of positiveness and courage that we have to deal with daily life and situations.

Keeping Time for Yourself To love your partner does not mean to give up a space for yourself to cultivate passion and a personal friendship.

We also keep a small corner in our home, where we can stay when we need peace and quiet: it doesn't take much space, just a comfortable armchair in a corner of the living room or a table in the bedroom where you can store something that we find again where we left it. The same space, physical and temporary, of course should be given to our partner and, perhaps, even its “disorder”.

Apologizing It is a difficult and essential art. We all make mistakes and find ourselves hurting those around us.

The important thing is to have honesty to know and repair our mistake. One argument, many words, an aggressive gesture requires an immediate and sincere apology, even better, finding a way to forgive. Pride is never a good strategy.

Kiss and pet They are never enough, even after many years of relationship. Likewise, sex should be often and willingly. We remind our partner, even in plain words, that it is special to us that we love him and we like him physically.

We should never underestimate his kind gestures, and we should always say that he is the most unique one in the world to us.