What ruins a couple bond?

In the beginning of a love relationship, everything seems perfect, but then... the continuation of the consciousness, new behaviors, which have little relationship. Here are some of the most dynamics and how to escape.

First dating and falling in love... everything is accompanied by flowers, red roses and then, to express love for your partner. In everydayity, we get used to the idea that this wonderful plant, which is part of our relationship, will always be there, resist and be in bloom, in an eternal spring. More than that, marriage relationships need daily food and attention in order to grow and strengthen their roots. Let it develop.

Besides learning that you must endure in love, we should also try to learn how to prevent negative tendencies. In most cases, they are not the great flood that can be combined with passion. Rather, they are small, bad habits, and negative tendencies that drag and weaken their relationship. For example...

Individual egoism: expresses the desire to always be fair, or claims their needs are secondary, excluding the fact that being able to reach a compromise and without caring for the partner's needs: classic “do as I say”. When they reach the end of joint projects, they undermine the foundation of the relationship and the relationship collapses. As to countering them: through dialogue, and creating a capital rule, of nature: you once and once me.

Demmetism: There is routine, but often there is not enough to fight it. Why? In time, she tries to develop a lazy attitude in the couple's relationship and feelings, feeling that she does not need time to make that romantic gesture, such as the seduction, or to have special attention to build the space to be together. But love does not accept indifference. How to fight it - by setting a routine that is good for the couple, even if it costs little effort.

Jealousy: It may, to some extent, be a sign of a healthy couple, but when it becomes more frequent, it becomes a devastating factor, instilling uncertainty and fear of abandoning, which one partner experiences. One side, the victimised one, claims that afteractive jealousy proven by the former partner is devastating. According to a study conducted by Eliana Monti's psychological club, 59% of respondents have ended the relationship because of this reason. How to combat it: evaluate the situation clearly. If he's with him and not with you, there's a reason: connection hasn't worked.

Always stick together: At first it is the desire to spend much time together, in any case. So besides not making friends who can't be seen with you as friends, you risk getting used to a symbiotic relationship where there are no individual spaces, and sooner or later, the feeling of breathing ends. Meanwhile, a lack of individual space leads to a loss of self - perceptions and personal objectives, results that will gradually no longer be noticed in the person he has fallen in love with. What needs to be done: Strengthen yourself by taking more time for yourself to cultivate personal and social interests, and then it is known that being alone sometimes brings the desire to live!

A lack of sincerity: whether small or large lies, dealing with a mate, or a lack of sincerity toward true desires, needs, and feelings. In the first instance, if lies are discovered, a crack is formed in the structure of faith, and it is easy to strain it to destruction. In the second instance, you risk finding yourself in a relationship that is not desired. What to do: Look inside yourself, think before you act, wonder if decisions can lead to lying.

Always avoid conflict: Sometimes an eye should be blinded by the attitudes and behavior of a mate who offends or hurts us. But if you do not face the argument because of fear of a fight, it will likely explode like a pressure pot, causing more damage. What you should do: Learn to discuss calmly and transform conflict into an opportunity for prudent strategies.

Instead of questions, listen: When we pretend to be the head of a partner, let's know exactly how he thinks, how he feels, what he wants, and what he needs, how he behaves, and why. Maybe wrong. What we should do: Try to listen to our partner beyond image (ever stereotype) by preferring direct and honest communication.

You think that you do not succeed alone: We often tend to rely on a true partner for the rest of our life. We trust and rely on each other. The result is that an addiction relationship is caused by not allowing separation from our partner, which allows our individual growth to be blocked, giving it greater confidence than “X”. We should never forget that a couple is made up of two independent persons. What to do: sometimes we ask, “what I would do if it's not Y”, and do it.

Intervention: Between husband and wife, do not point at it. And if his mother, your mother-in-law, but even his partner may sometimes have had a negative impact on friends and relatives, these bring doubt. But, in fact, only the couple can really know what the relationship is, so the couple themselves are responsible for making decisions and shares in the situation in question. How you resist: Thank you for the advice, but always trying to think the right thing.