Teen puberty: Fight with your parents, influence of society, dangerous behavior what's on his mind

To gain better communication and a more trusting relationship, it is important to know what and how your teenager thinks...

Parents have spent their very days in adolescence, and they know that being a teenager is not easy. It's the years when a child wants to be more independent, claims it's bigger than it is, there's sudden mood swings, first encounters with alcohol, thoughts about sexual experience, arguments with parents, social networking, and so on.

The teenage years are a great challenge for parents, and for this reason it is important for mothers and fathers to remember what they looked like in their teenage days but also to be aware of how adolescents view the world and why they behave as they do, it transmits Telegraph.

Carmen Vieo and Noemi Toledano Fernandez, psychologist from the Spanish University of Cordoba, found out about the magazine “The Conversion” how teenagers think and what it can help parents understand them better:

1. Disputed Decisions

As a result of research into neuroscientity, it has become clearer in how adolescents make decisions. They have to solve problems in a situation where their brains are still developing and away from all its fully mature areas. It is not surprising, then, that adolescents often make bad decisions. A teenager faces endless situations when he has to decide what to do - accept or refuse when offered something new, break the rules set in the family, and meet the person he loves.

All these decisions include two brain areas that mature at different times. The first is the mid-alomic leaf, which, among other things, is responsible for regulating the brain's reward system. This package of nerve connections in an active state encourages repetition of activities that are enjoyable, such as recreation with friends. The activity of the mid-alomic leafing is partly due to hormone production. Hence, during puberty, when hormones are particularly active, the mid - cellic lesion is very active.

The second area is pre-ball cortex. This is a key region of the brain responsible for the functions of multiple nerve activities, including the printing of impulsive behavior, self - control, and predicting the consequences of one's actions. In puberty, however, the frontal cortex is still ripe, so the teenager simply is not able to control his behavior and see what it can lead. This imbalance makes it possible to understand why adolescents make their decisions. They combine a system of extremely active pleasure with an immature system of self - control in their heads. And this combination becomes the basis for what adults call dangerous behavior.

2. The Need to Be Part of a Group

It is vital that adolescents communicate with their peers. Friends become an essential part of their world. Although boys and girls do not cut off their ties with their families, they now seek faith, support, and security, not from Mom and Dad, but from their peers. That is why it is so important for adolescents to be accepted into a particular society and for that to happen, they are often ready for everything. Now their behavior is regulated by group norms.

Teenagers try to act the way they think their peers expect them to behave. Often boys and girls, falling under the influence of society, forget themselves completely. They may even feel that other adolescents are constantly looking at them, judging and judging their actions. Such cognitive distortion is characteristic of adolescence.

3. For the Role of Adults

Teenagers are often at odds with their parents, but if adults try to understand, the danger of such a relationship is lower. Consider what experts advise:

▪ Treat dangerous mistakes and behaviors as part of the growth process. The most important thing is that your child learn from them and correct them on time.
▪ Explain the consequences of experimenting with the dangers that can lead to adolescents calmly and understanding.
▪ Remember that the satisfaction of such conduct covers the ability to evaluate the consequences properly.
▪ Remember, adolescents need not only freedom to experiment and make mistakes but also limitations. Though they try to be independent, they still need adult care.
▪ A teenager's view of the world is very different from an adult's view of the world. That is why it is very important to understand their viewpoint. Boys and girls need to be heard and understood as they sail into this dark forest called adolescence. /Telegraphy/