How to Break Out of a Suffering Relationship

Periskopi

23 July 2022, 22:33(4 years ago)

We don't feel good in the company of a relative, a friend, or a work colleague, but we're not capable of breaking off this relationship. Why is it difficult to end that it no longer pleases us? What are the reasons that can make a relationship difficult? All types of ties require one [...]

What are the reasons that can make a relationship difficult?

All kinds of ties require a strain, a will to make available to the other, all of us accept the idea that although there are changes, there are always differences between us and others. Or we ask to cancel this distance, wanting the other one before he is the one we love.

It's hard to accept that he's not who we want. And just when this illusion falls, a relationship begins to become difficult.

Who causes this illusion?

In a connection the mechanisms tend to be put in place each. Always used with unconsciousness these mechanisms represent complexes that we have within us and that help us to create differences. So we project to the next what we want to be. For example, we are characterized by some of the good traits that we are pleased to have and that we want to wear, regardless of his reaction.

The same can happen for something that is not positive for us and that we want to transmit to the other person who is loving to us. In this case we can only suffer because we try to act on someone else and change his character. For example, a mother who lacks childhood care may become hyperprotechnative because she tries to give her child everything, even what she does not need, only because she has lacked it.

What is the effect of a troubled relationship on the image that we have for ourselves?

The problem of self-esteem is a conflicting term. When she's not very kind to us, we have the impression that we're not worth anything, and when we're valued in a relationship, we're convinced that we're more than “than the other one is in the wrong shape. Or the person is not made up of a single block, and it is good to be aware at first of the durability of functioning of a relationship. This allows us neither to be blind nor to be in the position of the eternal victim. That means that neither I nor the other is perfect nor anything is anything. Everything is a component of the relationship.

If emotions evolve or change, it does not mean that we blame ourselves or others, though certain aspects are unbearable.

What prevents us from dating?

First of all, we do not understand why it has become difficult. It prevents us from understanding the benefits of seconds that this relationship brings us and other things that we neglect. It may be difficult to break away from a relationship and to pursue a desire: We feel that we are in danger of being left alone, we are plagued by the idea of abandoning, and we fear that if we pursue our desire, we may be punished. /Telegraphy/