Is it time to get engaged? Some Counsel on How to Tell Your Partner

Each of us thinks in his own way about marriage. On the one hand, there are very enthusiastic people, for it is one of the goals they have in life (especially when they're single), and on the other, they're people completely in love, but they don't care about making it official.

If you are in a well - established and serious relationship, you should definitely go beyond that key point - discussing marriage. Do you believe in marriage, both of you want to go to that step? Many couples talk about marriage only before wearing rings, but even at this stage there may be a slight cramp to create an inexplicable embarrassment. It is not that there are recipes, but what you need to know is how to have such a necessary conversation but also feel good after it.

Make sure you want to marry her. First, you need to find the answer to that question within yourself, and neither to any close relatives, close friends, nor to him. Any pressure, any form, fear, society, or anyone else is not good reason for deciding on marriage. Ask yourself: Is this person with whom I want to grow up? (or at least try)? Is marrying this man what I love most? If after these questions, there is no doubt and if you are to marry because you love this man, then it is the right time to start discussing with him. But if you have doubts of any kind, talk to a professional or someone you know and can give you reasons for staying.

Have a calm discussion: The way she begins the conversation is very important because it makes all the changes. Something that's starting to type “I've been thinking about spending my life with you” can work (no more weight if you're a long relationship because you create a nice, moody situation).

Find a quiet place that conveys love. Show your boyfriend that you're gonna spend the rest of your life with him, it could be a romantic conversation. No one can doubt that. But don't overlook the place where you're going to have this conversation, because the memory of it will always be fresh. There are thousands of ways to start a conversation like this, but to make it as healthy and long as you remember, you have to fill all the elements.

Never say never. When communicating, you shouldn't use absolute expressions or phrases of the <x0 type” and “permanently” they can scare him. This is an unwritten rule, but very important.

Don't think he won't get married. If there is any reason why he may have doubts about marriage (if he is divorced or has had a childhood with divorced parents), be careful about it. Do not view marriage as a happy solution for all people. He may have something else in mind, a couple's life, and a coexistence. Start a conversation with the fact that you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him, then you can go to the fact that you two can feel good under an institution like marriage.

Don't come back to that conversation. Once you realize you want to live with each other and once you've had this conversation, then it's best not to return it. He needs time to plan the proposal, but he also doesn't feel pressured after that discussion -- to get the ring ready, to ask for permission from his parents, to plan the wedding for himself... let his partner do his thing.