6 Questions You Should Ask Your Partner About a Healthy Relationship

Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola have been married for 18 years. Their last book is called “How to keep your marriage healthy”. They share six questions you should ask your partner to help foster a healthy relationship.

1. How can I help you today?

To say “s can help” is like saying “you are?”. We have become so attached to our lives that we can end up not taking care of our partner. By asking this question, you show involvement in your partner's work and perhaps ease the burden he/she may feel during the day.

2. What makes you feel loved?

The way you convey love shows how you like to take it, but that doesn't necessarily mean that your partner likes it.
One partner may feel love by receiving compliments, another when he is pleasing, another when helping with household chores, etc.

3. What can I do to prove that you're the one for me?

This question brings the importance of emotional intimacy. Sometimes, the relationship goes through a phase that you forget to express in words what you feel. But saying that you're very attractive to me, I like the way you look at me, I'll always be with you, etc., it makes you connect and have emotional intimacy.

4. Do you need to be alone?

We take it personally when the partner wants space, but the space is restorative and healthy. It also prevents monotonousness in a relationship.

5. When we are in conflict, what can we do differently, beyond screaming or silence?

Finding a way to communicate and end with solutions, not injuries, is essential to a healthy relationship.

It is normal to disagree, couples should not agree all the time. They have different styles of argument. You just have to create a clear and relaxed atmosphere of communication.

6. Is there something you miss from me or that makes you uncomfortable?

We can't be mind readers, so it's important to open this level of communication with your partner.