How do you know if you're dating someone with a Pjetr Pan's syndrome?

Everyone has met him, perhaps even dating a man who is still a child of heart. He still loves video games or wants to go out every hour of the night. He's every kid's favorite uncle because he's just like them.

And one more thing: It's really bad with responsibility. He is never reliable. He cannot remain committed to a relationship, to a job, and to nothing, for he simply is not mature enough to do so.

When we're kids, all we want is to be older...

If you know the above description, you might be dealing with someone who suffers from syndrome “

“As a society, we're dependent on youth; creams against wrinkles, botox, hair for hair... the desire to be young again knows no limits, “- said Dustin Pfaffe, along - “CEO Love And Matching”

What happens, then, when that desire affects who we are and makes it more difficult for us to function as adults? What happens when we not only want to appear young but also act as young people?

Well, this is known as Peter Pan's syndrome, which affects men in abundance, but it can happen in women.

We stop internal aging at the level of adolescence or college and we just want to have fun forever. ”- said Dustin Pfuff.

The typical “syndrome of “Petter Pan” is the personality of a man who is obsessed with the immature desire to experience only the adventures of a life, without having to take responsibility for actions or for his future,”- said Coltrane Lord, the expert on “Intimity and relations” and the author of <6> Love Avatar” and project “The Kinky Vanilla Love”.

In essence, people affected by this syndrome have not grown.

“You can understand whether the partner has “Peter Pan” if he's thinking only about himself and his needs; whether he doesn't or doesn't know how to conduct a deep conversation; or it's hard to be intimate,”- said Lord.

We all remember the guy who never grew up,”- said Federoff. “There are many men there who are still children”

How do you know if you're in a relationship with a Peter Pan?

A sure sign is in the workplace. “If the person you are constantly dating leaves work (or without a job) has zero motivation to excel in life or to have a career, and would prefer to act as a teenager,”- said Federoff.

Another red flag is simply a lack of maturity.

“They may be reckless with money, have a hard time accepting something in a relationship. Like a child, they will not want to have important or serious conversations in their relationship. Don't be deceived. You already know the signs. Accept them, and save yourselves from these evil children, little men. ”- said Rachel Federoff.

Do not allow them to remain immature.

Of course, no one is obliged to stay in a relationship with a certain “Peter Pan”. However, leaving a relationship is not always available. Whether they are children, it is always important to evaluate the situation and see what is the best decision for you and your well - being.

Remember, change comes from the inside. It is possible for these men to grow up, provided they show evidence of it. In that case, here is what you can do to support them throughout the process.

The first thing you can do to help change your behavior is see what energy you exchange with it. If he doesn't try to learn, he's not capable (we all have free will), then you have to ask yourself whether you want to partner a son or a man.

Do you really want to be with someone who sees you as their mother?

Wendy grew up, but Peter Pan failed. While the possibility of change is always available, it is important to remember that you can lose yourself trying to fix someone else. The best evidence is change of behavior, and if you don't see any change, it's better to move forward and find a more suitable partner.