Counsel from psychologists on how to set limits to protect your mental health

Before even beginning to set proper boundaries, you need to understand your needs and rights. Think of your basic human rights and the kind of consideration that you naturally provide for even strangers around you. This list can be very simple or very complex. It's up to you. Here are a few examples:

The Right to Intimacy

The Right to Respectful Treatment

A Right to Fail and Learn From Failure

The Right to Reject Unreasonable Expectations

Know where your borders are

Once you have known your basic needs, it is time to understand where your boundaries are. This isn't just about the point you can reach before you arrive. It has to do with physical, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual boundaries that may vary depending on the person involved.

Be Positive in the Right Way

When setting limits, you must be willing to take it seriously. Remember, though, that obedience is not cruel. The attitude is strong without losing human empathy and is direct without being aggressive.

Your best bet is to use “ “I”, such as “I feel...”, “I would like...”, or “I don't like...” compared to the accusation statements, such as “You never ...”, “You make me... ”, or “Stay away from me...! ”. Your goal is effective communication, not war.

Take care of yourself.

Self-awareness is essential for positive thinking and overall health and happiness. It is challenging to establish and apply boundaries when you are not in a good state of mind, since what you can and cannot handle will be severely shaken at such times. When you take good care, your desire to stand for yourself will grow after you realize how important your feelings are

Keep Some Spaces Safe

Many people have made a joke about the term “safe space” online, but the reason that the word exists first is that everyone needs safe spaces. This security is especially important in the digital era.

Some ideas about keeping the spaces safe are:

Planning for some time “just” that is non-negotiable.

Placing private items in containers or closed or secure locations

Use code, passwords and security features

Shutting off your phone sometimes

Shutting down on the Internet conversations you want to take a break from

Triple control break hour with relevant departments

Applying strict bedtime or rest time