Things you know wrong about distance connections

Your friends plan the wedding, the honeymoon or baby showers and here you are... praying that the pandemic ends up waiting for the next ticket just to spend a few days near your boyfriend. And it's not even something you can say to anyone you meet, because almost nobody understands you and you'll get back answers that'll make your nerves curly! What do people often know wrong about distant relationships? All related questions below!

1. “Wow, how difficult it must be”.

But you know what else is difficult? Close ties, marriages, family reports, social relations, professional reports -- all relationships are difficult in some respects, and simpler in others. Being connected with someone who lives a mile away from you is not so extraordinary, in fact, sometimes it's easier, at least you won't argue who ate the chicken left in the oven.

2. At least you'll have more time for yourself”

What does it mean to have time for yourself? It doesn't mean that now that you're closer to your boyfriend you'll relax in a hot tub, drink champagne and listen to Mariah Carey. It does not sound bad at all, but with all the commitments the day has, these small pleasures do not seem so good in the face of a desire to spend time with a loved one. Time for itself is created by couples who spend so much time together that their identities are united into one. Being with someone you want should not be a sacrifice, and the time away from them should not feel like a pleasant vacation. When you are in a relationship, close or far, you always have to make time for yourself because a healthy relationship with yourself should be a priority for you, which brings healthier relationships even with your mate.

3. You can spend more time with friends”

My boyfriend may not be around all the time, but that doesn't mean filling up time with a group of people just not to feel alone. If you have found time for companionship as long as your love has been with you, you can do the same when he is not. A partner may be a very good friend, but there are things you cannot talk to, so we have parents, siblings, and friends.

4. “Kushdi how good you are in communication”!

You need to be more capable of communication, to learn to read from words, and to express feelings or disagreements through words, the impossible of physical contact. It's a separate challenge not to read someone's mimics or body language. But you have to be very good in communication if you live 10,000 miles away, just like you should be if you live 10 minutes away. Communication is the key to each relationship, and it requires work and constant attention. This is what everyone should consider!

5. So what do you intend to do”?

Oh I don't know, maybe live forever apart. What? If we knew that, you think we'd still be living 27163 miles away? A distance connection is the promise of what can become a relationship. You should try each one to do his best as you try to find solutions to be together and reach your individual goals. This is not easy, sometimes it can be very stressful. So you just can't ask someone who's in a situation like this about what he's gonna do! It's as rude as asking a couple when they're getting married or a married couple when they plan on having kids, it's nobody's job! /Anabelmagazine/