Your partner checks your e-mail, is it normal in the love relationship?

It all started out completely innocent. You left her with some friends for dinner, but before you left, you wanted to check the restaurant address. Move the mouse, light the open laptop screen and there it was, looking straight into the eye: your partner's Inbox. Maybe you closed the window and continued the day. Or maybe if you're like most people, you found yourself clicking on an email and before you knew it, you got into the wire hole.

Everyone does,” answered when I asked the question in the office last week. The conversation that went on was one of the hottest we've ever had, with everyone showing a personal annex or the story of a friend “who had been tracking the other's email at one point. We're not alone in this story. According to a survey conducted last year by the antivirus Avast programme company, one in five men and one in four women controlled smartphones and the other half. Meanwhile, a 2013 McAfee survey found that 49 percent of people regularly checked their partner's e - mail. At these times, when Instagram and Facebook control is called an honest game, has it been done and tracking normal email?

For a couple, reading partner e-mails is part of a silent issue between the two. He gave me the password he uses for everything”, she says. I'm sure he knows I control everything and I don't mind that he controls my accounts online.” Another editor admitted that she listened, not because she doubted her husband, but because it was a way to understand him better. He doesn't talk to me about a lot of things. I read some of his emails to understand. It's an unselfish wiretap. ”

Some of our staff were committed against surveillance, and many of them believed that even if you trust your partner, if you control often, you'll find something. My “My friend found an email with a picture that she thought was her boyfriend's nephew's, so she clicked, but it turned out it was the photo of her engagement ring,” said one of the reporters. The worst part of all this was that he didn't like”. For months, whenever they went out to dinner or left town, she thought he'd propose. After eight months, he told her happily another ring. Another editor had likewise discovered that her boyfriend was making the proposal plans on e - mails, but she could not hold back from saying anything. “I ended up saying it in the middle of a big fight”, she said. I felt so bad that I decided to be honest. ”

If revealing future plans for engagement is inappropriate, discovering something ugly is even worse. One of our editors ' friends found out that her boyfriend had sent her friend an e - mail with negative grades for her. She kept thinking about saying, but she didn't. I just told her that if he looked at my box he'd find a lot of emails and chats on Googlechat around him, he said.

As for the art of surveillance, I've learned there are several possibilities to control the other person instead of checking his email. “Most of the iPads and iPhones are connected, so it's easy to see his messages if you once borrow the iPad,” told us an assistant. Another of the youths on staff gave us a tutorial how to use telephone position services to verify whether the other is telling the truth about his whereabouts. For the sake of all relationships, I'm not giving that information here!

Those who have been on the other side of the draw, listening, if we call them, have become conscious of stopping curious eyes. The basic rules are these: Don't sync your electronic device, remove TV mess from your phone sets, don't use the same code for different devices, and never forget to log out of your electronic accounts.

But at the end of the roundtable of discussions, we agreed as cynical, that no matter what measures you take, there will be someone who will control your email. <x) “All that is online is not private” Or your soul mate, or a Korean hacker, is reading your information. ”