The confession of a former obese escort: What I Learned About Sex and Men

Many times, when I tell women that I've been working as a sex worker, they look at me from head to foot and they say, "The “really?" Perhaps I get that reaction because I'm six feet [1.60 m] tall and weigh 130 pounds [104 kg] and certainly don't fit in with the concept of sex workers.

There's a lot of concepts about sex workers and the most popular idea, about my experience, is that all should look like Julia Roberts at <x0... Pretty Woman” and that men want women who are money.

I'm here to tell you this is wrong.

I don't want to pretend at any point that I have perfect physics. I'm a person my doctor calls “obez”. I have a big, round belly covered in pink sheets, soft breasts, nipples that my first boyfriend called “and black” and mustaches that want a regular depiling. I'm a perfect man and I've been working as a successful escort for over a decade.

At first, I began to work as an escort through a site that already no longer exists. Last year, I went to an audition for employment at a strip club. The manager saw me clearly and laughed at how someone like me dared and sought a job as a dancer. He told me I was a very large “”. In view of what I know from experience, it seemed strange why a strip club didn't even take women like me when there are men who pull out of our bodies. I went because it seemed like a good idea about their business.

However, the idea of classical dancers in strip clubs is a fact of how men are imposed on the idea that they should like thin women with awesome bodies and away from hiring a overweight woman at the club. These places are just a micro-world of the world where we live.

What I've learned from all my years as a escort is that in private conversation, men are more open.

Anyone can be a sex worker. There are no conditions of beauty. There is a market for all troops, although it is true that not every market is equal.

When volunteering for a sex worker union in Kolkata, India, I met a woman in her 80 ' s who was still working as a sex worker. Is it easier if you're 25 years old? Maybe so, but this does not mean that if you're over 25, there are no men who want to be with you. The difference is that men (as entities) do not want to know that men (as individuals) do not necessarily like a girl in body like Playboy models.

The truth is, in the silence of the bedroom where I sat with the customers, men are really attracted to all kinds of bodies. It was sometimes that I spent a lot of energy trying to hide my stomach or try to turn off the lights, or go to the bathroom often to see if it seemed good to me. These are things society had previously lied to me about.

The real secret that I think men seriously want us women to know, when there are others around, is to let them see with all your shortcomings, completely desirable.