Confession: I had sex with my son's friend, but my son now...
(6 years ago)A woman told her story in The Sun, who told of her boyfriend's intimate relationship. The woman has shown problems with her son after that incident, and she says she's very hurt that her son no longer speaks to her, broadcasts “Bota Sot”. Confession [...]
A woman told her story in The Sun, who told of her boyfriend's intimate relationship.
The woman has shown problems with her son after that incident, and she says she's very hurt that her son no longer speaks to her, broadcasts “Bota Sot”.
Your wife's confession:
I had an intimate relationship with my son's friend ten years ago when they were both 19.
My son has never forgiven me and my heart is breaking down every day.
Before going to college abroad, I organized a social party and his family.
It was a wonderful day but I felt bad because I knew I was going to miss my son. We were very close after leaving his father when he was six years old.
One of his good friends was talking to me, telling me I looked too young to be his mother and that I was amazing, I was 43.
A couple of days later my friend came back to bring some books to my son, but he was out.
We had some coffee, we talked and he made me laugh. He then kissed me. I felt great, and we ended up in bed. The sex was amazing, but I felt terrible later and he left almost immediately.
It happened one more time, but then I told him that it would not happen again. Then came the morning that I will never forget. My son came into the house, calling me different names.
Another of his friends told him all about my relationship with his friend I slept with. My son started to cry, saying he was humiliated. I told him to grow. He left for college next weekend.
We've had occasional contacts since then, but it's never been the same. Now he has a boyfriend and a little boy I've never seen.
I also have a boyfriend who is very kind. I told him all about the incident recently.
He was understanding but said I made a big mistake. He said he would have reacted the same if his mother had done what I did.
I have tried to apologize, but how can I rebuild our relationship?
The psychologist's response:
No one likes to be ashamed of their company, especially not teenagers.
Maybe you're too bad because you were so close. He did not really react as an adult but as a child whose mother had betrayed him.
So try to apologize again. Sometimes it's so hard for us to admit that we've made a big mistake, apologize with excuses that only irritates more.
After telling your son how bad you are and realizing there was no excuse for your behavior, say you want to meet your nephew and be a loving grandmother for him.