"The virtual sex with the ex-boyfriend made me..."

I've had fantastic virtual sex with an old boyfriend, but I'm afraid to break up with my partner, because he keeps my money.

I'm 31 and my partner 36. We've been together for four years. He started a taxi business. He couldn't take a bank loan and so I borrowed him two thousand pounds my grandfather left me.

My boyfriend was happy that he had become the boss himself, but running this taxi business was stressful and now he's worried about the coronary crisis.

We're not together and we're able to talk only on the Internet.

He never has anything to talk too much and I'm tired of trying to stay positive forever.

I too have concerns about my work.

My ex-boyfriend has been a good friend to me and is now in a relationship with another woman.

He showed me on my Facebook page a few weeks ago with the message he suggested we could talk to the social media.

We became friends and he started flirting. We both drank and we were watching the same program on television and then he started talking dirty. I got really hot. I've never had virtual sex before but it's been really amazing lately.

The next day he called me and said he felt bad about the betrayal, but he never loved his girlfriend.

I still have strong feelings for him and he feels the same thing, but he doesn't want any of us to get hurt or ruin our friendship.

I'm confused about his mixed messages.

I love my partner, but being with my ex-boyfriend is fun and making me realize how little effort my partner made for me.

I'm worried that if I stop, I'll never see two thousand pounds inherited.

Psychologist answers:

You still have feelings for your ex-boyfriend, but he's not offering you a relationship. Be careful not to let this one of your friends hope that I will change your mind.

If he would have you like a cake of his and eat you, he would have no reason to change.

The best step is to stay away from him and see how to adjust your current relationship.