Are you better to strangers than to whom you love? How can you stop such behavior?

Have you ever done better to strangers than to the closest ones you love?

Our behavior changes in communication with different people, but sometimes we are not even aware of it.

There is a scientific study that explains the secret mechanisms that actually control “what we do and say.

After three valid investigation of aggression, professor of psychology Deborah South Richardson found out why our behavior differs according to people around us and what causes changes in our behavior.

It is possible to reveal why we treat strangers so differently when compared with our loved ones, and how we can change such conduct in the future.

1. We think that our relationship is strong enough and can bear it.

We feel calmer being ourselves with the people we love. But being yourself means showing each side of the character, including the bad side.

One study confirms that we are inclined to let go of anger against the people we feel closest to because we believe that our relationship with them is strong enough to endure it.

The closer we draw to someone and the more faith we develop, the more we postpone the boundaries of that relationship.

2. We feel less confident about being ourselves around young people

When we meet new people, we do not really show what we are. They cannot see who we really are until we get closer.

Even if they bother us, we will not do anything, for we do not know how they will react. Rather, when our relatives disturb us, we can easily extract what is inside us.

In fact, because we are so close to our family, we are more inclined to be open about what we dislike about them. We build a relationship with them and we know that it won't be shed if we get bored or scream.

3. We do not tolerate the negative qualities of people with whom we spend more time

The more time you spend with someone, the less tolerant you become to their negative things. This will not happen to foreigners, because you do not spend much time with them to develop this intolerance about their personal characteristics. Even if something bothers you, you don't say it, because you know you won't be with them for long.

Now that we know why we treat our loved ones in this way as opposed to strangers, let us see what we can do to prevent this kind of future behavior:

a. Take some time off from your loved ones when you see it necessary

If you stay away from them for a while, you will be able to appreciate more the good they possess.

b. Spend time with your loved ones in the company of others.

When we are in the company of people with whom we have a superficial relationship, we begin to behave more politely and kindly. Such behavior also applies to our loved ones.