Resist without seeing the profile; Why it's hard to forget ex at social networking time

A Toronto University study reveals that to overcome the end of a relationship, we must close social networks.

Before social networks came, when a relationship ended, we no longer knew about the life of another: photos were thrown into the basket. Not only, but there were no Internet posts to remind us of the end of our love story or our losses.

Many people after the breakup tend to live in the past, idealizing they were or the story of love. As a result, the idea that we cannot succeed alone or the idea that something has been suspended and unexpounded. This behavior has become part of us, sometimes for a long time, because at the end of each relationship, each of us has the processing mechanism that helps us forget or move on.

The situation is complicated more in the time of social media that has brought its priorities and disadvantages, such as difficulties in forgetting what you were. But what is the mental mechanism that makes it hard to forget was?

The search for neuroscientists from the University of Toronto, published in Neuron magazine, has pointed out that forgetting trivial information from the past, favours a better adaptation to new experiences. If we apply this study to our everydayity, we realize that each of us has a trunk of emotions and memories so extensive that it sometimes becomes impossible to forget a past love.

Who among us after a love division doesn't stop thinking about the past, about what he's doing? Has he forgotten us? Has he resumed his life? Many toxic behaviors that prevent the reprocessing process from accomplishing its work and for wounds to be closed at the right time.

Then what can we do to forget faster and better?

According to Cyberpsycology, we have an obligation to do everything just not to persecute and idealize the finished relationship. So to separate virtually from the former we have to block it on all social networks and erase everything we've shared. This move will enable us to live better or in the right way of pain, beginning a new life.

What does our expert say? Psychologist Manjola Bachi says:

“The expression “out of the eye from the heart”, no longer finds room as long as we should forget about the love/ dashing, especially if they have decided to publish their lives on any social network that holds the net. Or where your boyfriend friends are in between. But this is not the answer for a psychologist. I recommend that we understand that separation takes time, it should be accompanied by the conviction that you're doing the right thing, and flashbacks and memories to understand that this partner has broken your heart, or that connection was not right. But if you're pushed into your curiosity to look at his/her profile, do it until you understand the behavior you're acting from “control “and this break comes naturally. ”/Jacques Lekatar